I love you, but. . .

I was reminded of a song that spoke to me before, particularly with the lyrics :”It’s not about your scars. It’s all about your heart.”

While some people would see this in a romantic context, I felt the words of the Lord resonating as this song lull me to sleep last night:

Psalm 34:18
The Lord is near to the broken-hearted
And saves those who are crushed in spirit.

Romans 5:8
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

I was reflecting how I respond to the people close to me. I know there were situations where I feel hurt because some have not been honest in the past. I felt like I was torn apart due to my expectations of who they were.

How can I not forgive, if God forgave me? Looking at myself, I know that I have not been that honest with the Lord through my lifetime; and despite that, God forgives.

I knew the Lord wanted me to learn how to really love- beyond the superficial. He saw past who I was and I had a chance to do things better. I was unfair feeling that those who have hurt me needed to feel their remorse longer. Even how many times they reached out, I stubbornly choose to distance myself and held to my pride.

From memory, my parents would tell me, “Go and say sorry, it never hurts to say sorry.” I apologize for not forgiving you before, dear friend. It cost us several years, which should have been times when we could have spent strengthening the bonds of our friendship.

I was finally free from my cage of bitterness when I forgave. Before, I would think about the phrase, ” I love you but…” It took me time, I know, to see that genuine love means no conditions but acceptance. We move on from holding on to our grudges towards building and restoring broken bridges of lost relationships.

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This cause was inspired by a young lad, Abner A. Ibag, who has passed away after 18 precious years of existence. He has left a legacy of positivity and have become an inspiration to his family circle, friends and his acquaintances; a beaming beacon who has shared selfless acts of kindness, emanating an aura of joy with a contagious spirit of bringing smiles and laughter. Continuing this feat, from a period of hiatus, I aspire to continue sharing a heart of caring through social media- with stories and encouraging updates, and connecting people with the same mindset. Everyday stresses may become overwhelming, but know that you are not alone going through this. Would you like to join us? Feel free to send us your messages, inquiries and suggestions. Let's brighten up the world. Keep smiling!

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